The incidence of suicide is increasing in our nation. I feel compelled to shine a light on this often hidden, always painful situation, which is fraught with unanswerable questions. I’m hoping even this limited information will help someone.
Over a brief period, I became aware of three young men who died by suicide. All the families were involved in church communities, and all three shared the same uncommon first name. That “coincidence” and the tragic circumstances arrested my attention.
I’m not a trained mental health professional, but I care deeply about this issue as it increasingly targets today’s young people. I hope to pass along information that might help. Counselors report that discussing suicide helps with understanding and reduces stigma rather than increasing risk.
Suicide is not always about wanting to die but is about escaping from pain. It can stem from many causes, including depression, hopelessness, low self-worth, shame, mental illness, and other issues.
Though this is not an exhaustive list, these are ways to help someone who is in crisis:
PRAY.
ASK them openly if they’ve considered suicide.
ENCOURAGE CONTACT with a suicide hotline or counselor:
988 – Suicide & Crises Lifeline
866-903-3787 – Christian Faith Resources
844-472-9687 – Christians in Crises
LISTEN in a non-judgmental way. Just as your 6-year-old, who has been injured, doesn’t want a scripture tossed his way, avoid that approach at this crisis point. Comforting and encouraging scriptures can be shared later, after safety and trust are established.
CREATE PROTECTIVE ENVIRONMENTS. Reduce access to lethal means.
ENCOURAGE family and professional help. Accompany a friend to talk to parents or contact a counselor.
CHECK IN to follow up and show your concern.
PRAY AGAIN – and thank you for caring enough to notice and act.
~ Nan Robertson
Christ Fellowship